FEATURE — Hey Mama, you know how parenting throws curveballs, right? Recently found out my teen might be dealing with some self-harm stuff. It’s heavy, but I’m learning how crucial it is to get what’s going on and how to support them.

Seems some kids use self-harm to shake off tension, while others kind of choose physical pain over feeling emotionally numb. Stress, anxiety and depression – they’re like the usual suspects tied to this. But get this: emotions like anger, sadness, rejection and even the pressure of social media can trigger the whole self-harm thing.

And, girl, when I first stumbled on this, my initial reaction was all over the place – worried, angry, you name it. But here’s the real deal: our teens who self-harm? They’re scared of their own actions. Like, they feel guilt, shame and total remorse after. It hit me hard.

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Now, instead of freaking out, I’m trying this calm approach. Having heart-to-hearts without judgment, you know? Turns out, it makes a world of difference. I throw in some open-ended questions about their feelings and what’s causing this behavior. Letting them know I’m there to listen, no matter what.

Professional help’s in the mix too. Got an evaluation from Life Launch Centers – they’re pros at this. Meds might be on the table if there’s an underlying mental health thing. And therapies, like family sessions and cognitive behavioral stuff, are part of the game plan.

Emotional support is my go-to move now. Quality one-on-one time, encouraging chill activities like walks or journaling, even sweating it out together. Building a support system and acknowledging their pain – it’s the real deal.

Patience, Mama, it’s a journey. Breaking the cycle takes time. But with early spotting, pro help and a supportive vibe, our teens can learn to handle those intense emotions in a way that doesn’t involve hurting themselves.

Just wanted to share, you know, in case you ever find yourself in the same boat. We got this, Mama.

Written by JENNY PHILLIPS for Life Launch Centers. This article originally appeared on Jan. 18, 2024, on the Life Launch Centers blog.

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